I would like to give credit to a cafe, Pondok, in Dataran Sunway, Kota Damansara, for having a reading corner at the front of their premise. There is self-improvement books, magazines and daily newspaper for their customers to read. Not many food outlet is practising this concept.
In schools, we were ‘forced’ to read a book a week during language lessons. Why now that we’re working, many of us stop reading? Is it because we are not ‘forced’? Busy, no money, lazy-lah, were some of the excuses we gave to ourselves. Most of us rather gather with friends and gossip about how terrible their friends, cooleagues, family members...etc then to read books to improve their assertive communication. Probably not many of us are aware of the term assertive communication’.
According to Hopkins (Hopkins, L (2009) Assertive Communication – 6 Tips for Effective Use, http://ezinearticles.com/?Assertive–Communication---6-Tips-For-Effective-Use&id=10…) assertive communication is the ability to express positive and negative ideas and feelings in an open, honest and direct way. Are we talking about 360 degrees changeover? Drucker(Drucker, P, (2005) Managing Oneself, Harvard Business Review, pg 104) said “Do not try to change yourself – you are unlikely to succeed. Work to improve the way you perform”.
‘Hang-outers’ could use the gathering opportunities to check with each other on how to improve the “unhappy” situations rather than gossip about them. Of course a better way would be pick up a book on assertive communication(only available online e.g. http://www.amazon.com/) and discuss what would we do in order to improve our assertiveness. What good do you think we can get by gossiping about other people? Would the person know that their behaviour is annoying you? Would they stop annoying you after you finished gossiping? How much time have you spent gossiping all these while? Do you think it will be better if you use this amount of time on readings so that you can improve situations?
I know right now your heart is full of anger but just think of this topic with an open mind. Spending 15 minutes a day to read a book is achievable with determination in self-improvement but reading a page a day is easier. You may choose the smallest or thinner book to start with so that you can finish reading it. That will motivate you to read the next book. Not all authors’ style suits our reading so choose comfortably. Malaysians, unless you are blind (there’s even Braille for them), you need to read.
Have a reading corner in your house does help. Reading is a lifelong learning activity that will really bring us to the next level of our life. So start now, keep reading and stop gossiping.
Pondok
Pork-free
No 17-1 Jalan PJU 5/4, Dataran Sunway
Kota Damansara
47810 Petaling Jaya
Tel: (03) 6140 8170
In schools, we were ‘forced’ to read a book a week during language lessons. Why now that we’re working, many of us stop reading? Is it because we are not ‘forced’? Busy, no money, lazy-lah, were some of the excuses we gave to ourselves. Most of us rather gather with friends and gossip about how terrible their friends, cooleagues, family members...etc then to read books to improve their assertive communication. Probably not many of us are aware of the term assertive communication’.
According to Hopkins (Hopkins, L (2009) Assertive Communication – 6 Tips for Effective Use, http://ezinearticles.com/?Assertive–Communication---6-Tips-For-Effective-Use&id=10…) assertive communication is the ability to express positive and negative ideas and feelings in an open, honest and direct way. Are we talking about 360 degrees changeover? Drucker(Drucker, P, (2005) Managing Oneself, Harvard Business Review, pg 104) said “Do not try to change yourself – you are unlikely to succeed. Work to improve the way you perform”.
‘Hang-outers’ could use the gathering opportunities to check with each other on how to improve the “unhappy” situations rather than gossip about them. Of course a better way would be pick up a book on assertive communication(only available online e.g. http://www.amazon.com/) and discuss what would we do in order to improve our assertiveness. What good do you think we can get by gossiping about other people? Would the person know that their behaviour is annoying you? Would they stop annoying you after you finished gossiping? How much time have you spent gossiping all these while? Do you think it will be better if you use this amount of time on readings so that you can improve situations?
I know right now your heart is full of anger but just think of this topic with an open mind. Spending 15 minutes a day to read a book is achievable with determination in self-improvement but reading a page a day is easier. You may choose the smallest or thinner book to start with so that you can finish reading it. That will motivate you to read the next book. Not all authors’ style suits our reading so choose comfortably. Malaysians, unless you are blind (there’s even Braille for them), you need to read.
Have a reading corner in your house does help. Reading is a lifelong learning activity that will really bring us to the next level of our life. So start now, keep reading and stop gossiping.
Pondok
Pork-free
No 17-1 Jalan PJU 5/4, Dataran Sunway
Kota Damansara
47810 Petaling Jaya
Tel: (03) 6140 8170
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